People will tell you a lot of tricks to build your confidence. These tricks and techniques might make you appear confident, but it doesn’t resolve the underlying problem in the long run.
It’s like watering the leaves rather than the root. The plant may look green for a while, but it’s dying of thirst.
If you are not addressing the root cause of your lack of confidence, you will never honestly know what confidence feels like because treating the symptom is different from treating the disease.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
― Lao Tzu
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» 6 Unusual Things I Inherited From My Father’s Toxic World
Whatever a child grows up seeing, it becomes normal for them. We hardly ever question our childhood beliefs.
For example, take the Kreung tribe of Cambodia. The Kreung people make special huts for their teenage daughters to use for spending time with different boys until they find the right partner.
If a girl becomes pregnant, the boy she picks has to be the father, but if he doesn’t want to marry her, the family tries to find someone else to be the dad.
It’s normal for them, but for a person outside, it’s way beyond normal.
» Three Crucial Parenting Lessons That Being a Thief Taught Me
Many of us can relate to the experience of standing outside a store, looking at a display of colorful toys that we can’t afford to buy. Like me, you might have wished for the window to magically disappear so we could have those desired toys.
I never dared to ask my parents for toys because, since childhood, I was told that our financial situation wasn’t that great. While my mother would have gladly bought me the world, my father would get upset, accusing her of wasting money.
🌈 Wisdom Tip:
“We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.”
― Rick Warren
We are made by our past, but that doesn't mean it has to control us. Our past is like a big box of things that happened, but we don't have to stay locked inside.
Even though our experiences shape us, we can learn from them and make choices that lead to a better future. We always have the power to build our own awesome future!
📚 Book Tip:
This is one of my favorite books.
I have read this, listened to the audiobook and even went ahead and collected 100 of my favorite quotes from this book (which you can read here if you’re interested)
This book will change the way you think. It will teach you about self-esteem and how it impacts almost all our decisions.
I really wish you would take the time to read this brilliant book.
That’s it for today.
See you next Wednesday,
Gaurav